Key Takeaways

 This will be my last blog post! I have actually enjoyed bogging! At the beginning of my class when I was told I was going to have to blog my first reactions were no way haha. But as I have been learning in this class I have really enjoyed blogging about what I’ve learned. I have learned a lot from taking this class and I am so excited to take what I have learned and apply it to my life and bring it with me into my future family.  Some important key takeaways that I want to take away with me from this class are… 

Looking at success not from the world’s eyes but from God’s helps me not to judge success.

The world sees success in this way $uȼȼe$$ with dollar signs in it. People measure success as the amount of money they make, or with having the most expensive clothes. I think this goes back to what people think the purpose of their lives is. For people with no belief in God, I would think that they would turn to worldly things to fulfill their purpose. God gave Adam and Eve a commandment to multiply and replenish the earth, and that commandment is still in force today. God doesn’t measure success; he measures our efforts to keep his commandments and follow his gospel. One way I want to be successful in this life is having kids and raising a family. I know if I can be a good mom and wife that in Heavenly Fathers eyes I will be “successful”. The world nowadays may see this traditional mindset and think I am outdated, but regardless I know I can find joy and success by not searching for worldly things but for seeing my worth and success in God’s eyes. 


Looking at different family systems gives me ideas on how I want my family to be and helps me strive for the white picket fence family.I loved learning about the white picket fence family where at the center you have a MW (man and woman) husband and wife together united. In a marriage the most important part is your relationship with your spouse, at the end of the day it is the two of you together, you and your spouse are a team. You have to have a strong base in order to build a family around it. The next part of your system is adding a healthy boundary around your marriage. You don’t want to make your boundary so rigid and closed that nobody can come in and out, and you also don’t want your boundary to be too open where anybody can come in and out, because this can add a lot of unwanted change in a family. The idea is a nice picket fence boundary. After you have a solid marriage and boundary, people add kids that are added on the outside of the marriage boundary. Once you add kids you add another picket fence boundary. In my future family I want to strive for this white picket fence family. I want to be united and be a team with my husband and together we lead and guide our family with the help of the Lord. 


The RAM Model helped me in my relationship with my fiancé and it can help me teach my kids what is best in a relationship. The RAM model is a relationship/attachment model that goes in order of getting to know someone, trusting someone, relying on someone, committing to someone, and touch. These relationship characteristics all go in order, you can’t trust someone before you get to know someone. In many worldly relationships people value touch before even getting to know someone, this is shown in shows like the Bachelor and in movies where the characters have one-night stands. Touch can cloud judgment and can make you feel like you really know and love someone you just met. In my relationship with my fiancé at the beginning of our relationship, touch started to take over all the other characteristics, so it has helped us to take a step back and not be as touchy. Doing this has helped us to really get to know and trust each other. This RAM model helped my relationship and I hope from my knowledge of it, it would help my future kids in their relationships. 

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